Sex Marks the Spot

In my last entry, I mentioned I would make another post about man made marriage ceremonies/vows. This will be that post.

If you want to know how life, as God intended it, is supposed to be, you need to go back to the beginning of Genesis, and read about life in Gan Eden (the Garden of Eden), prior to Adam and Eve eating from the tree of knowledge of good and evil.

Adam and Eve were married, as referenced in Genesis 2:25. But there were no other humans at the time, so the modern marriage ceremonies of needing an officiant and a witness and a caterer and a venue and the perfect dress, etc weren’t a thing.

At the time of Adam and Eve’s marriage, their marriage was official when they had sex. Sex is what makes you married in God’s eyes. (1 Corinthians 6:16, Genesis 2:24/Matthew 19:5), not signing a marriage certificate or spending $100k and a bunch of drama to repeat mindless words in front of your family, friends, and their plus ones.

When you have sex with someone, you are spiritually married to them.

Another example is the woman at the well:

People love to say that she had been divorced five times. She had not been divorced five times. She more than likely hadn’t even been divorced once.

John 4:18 said she’s had five husbands the man shes currently with is not her husband.

Do you know what that means? It means she’s had sex with six men, with no lifetime commitment for them.

The verbiage is not based on modern concepts; it’s based on how things worked when it was written.

This lady did not have a an expensive wedding and then pay a lawyer and go to court to dissolve her marriage, and then do it again four more times.

Jesus referring to her past lovers as husbands is based on God’s standard of marriage, and not the 2024 first world standard of marriage.

God does not just recognize you as married after you have a party and file your marriage license signed by an ordained officiant and two witnesses. God recognizes you as married when you have sex! This is why it’s so important to break off your soul ties…because you are spiritually married to anyone you’ve had sexual contact with, and no court ruling or paperwork can change that.

If The Bible were written for “the world” of 2024, John 4:18 would not say she had five husbands, it would say she had five sexual partners, or she changed partners frequently or multiple times, etc (can also vary based on translation/version).

The concept of “saving yourself/waiting for marriage,” is kind of a joke at this point, because sex IS marriage. You can’t save yourself for marriage, because you become married the moment you have sex, regardless of what your relationship intentions are with that person.

In America, Colorado and Washington DC allow you to marry with no officiant and no witnesses…just husband, wife, and God. This means, whenever God brings me my husband, I can have a marriage ceremony the way God intended it, without being required to have other people there, and having to recite vows that are more than my yes being yes.

Some people will bring up 2 Corinthians 13:1 that says every word will be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses. And I get where they’re coming from, but if I want to have a marriage that is honoring to God, I feel that I need to begin it as God intended it before the fall of man.

Feel free to fight me on this, but you won’t be part of my marriage ceremony 😝.